How To Change Your Life By Overcoming Your Fears

"The Only Thing We Have to Fear Is Fear Itself"and two children was stronger than his fear of
- From the Inaugural Address of Franklin Delanoheights. He retrieved his check and went on to
Roosevelt, 32nd U.S. Presidentgraduate pole climbing school without further
Fear is the great barrier to success. "What if Iincident.
fail?"; "What if I fall?"; "What if I lose?" Take awayIs there some fear that's keeping your feet on
fear and all that is left is opportunity. Fear is athe ground? Is there some success that lies just
blessing and a curse. Having a healthy fear ofbeyond your reach because you're too afraid to
Crocs is a good thing if you're thinking aboutclimb high enough to reach it? If so, you need to
diving into some remote billabong, but it cantake action.
destroy your life if it keeps you from achievingFear, and its two companions - uncertainty and
success.doubt, are powerful psychological forces that hold
Years ago a friend of mine went to work for themany of us back from being what we are meant
telephone company. During his training he spentto be. But, like anything else that resides solely in
time at pole climbing school. Each student wasour own minds, we have the power to overcome
required to strap special spikes on to their workthese forces.
boots and use those spikes to climb up telephoneAll it takes is a conscious decision to face our
poles. He couldn't do it. He was afraid of heights.fears head on and examine what it is that we are
Every day he would stand at the base of that 18really afraid of. Once we understand the
meter tall poll and his feet would refuse to move.underlying reason behind the fear, we can build a
Slowly, over the course of a week, he managedplan to combat it. Here's how you do that:
to reach a height of 6 meters, then 9. But that1. Stop using the word "fear" replace it with the
was his limit. His fear refused to allow his feet toword "risk" instead.
carry him any higher. The instructors didn't harass2. Examine the risk you face if you take the
him. In fact, they mostly ignored him.course of action you are considering and come up
Friday came and the instructors handed outwith a plan to mitigate those risks. It's that easy.
paychecks to all of the students. No one handed aOnce you fully understand the risks involved with
check to my friend. When he asked where hisyour course of action, and you make a plan to
pay was, one instructor pointed to the very topminimize or reduce those risks, your mind
of the pole and said "I nailed it up there. If youreleases you from the grips of fear and frees
want to get paid, you'll have to climb up and getyou to act. Action breeds success. Fear holds you
it." Evidentially, the need to buy food for his wifeback. It's your choice.